Sunday, August 8, 2010
Choosing Successor to Ratan Tata
Friday, August 6, 2010
FOR A REASON FOR A SEASON
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that Person..
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with Guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an End.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire Fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional Foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other Relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
TODAY…MY LIFE HAS CHANGED DUE TO SOME UNCERTAIN REASON…
GOD BLESS YOU ALL... .!!!
As we Grown Up....!!
As we grow up, we learn that even the
one person that wasn't supposed to
ever let you down probably will. You
will have your heart broken probably
more than once and it's harder every
time. You'll break hearts too, so
remember how it felt when yours was
broken. You'll fight with your best
friend. You'll blame a new love for
things an old one did. You'll cry
because time is passing too fast, and
you'll eventually lose someone you
love. So take too many pictures,
laugh too much, and love like you've
never been hurt because every sixty
seconds you spend upset is a minute
of happiness you'll never get back.
Saturday, May 29, 2010
People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that Person..
When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with Guidance and support,
To aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
This person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an End.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire Fulfilled, their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.
LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons,
Things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional Foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson,
Love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other Relationships and areas of your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
TODAY…MY LIFE HAS CHANGED DUE TO SOME UNCERTAIN REASON…
GOD BLESS YOU ALL... .!!!
Sunday, May 9, 2010
Let us dream of an India where every Indian, rich or poor, is blessed with identical opportunities. It is an India where even the poorest of the poor has three square meals a day, a roof over his head instead of the star-lit sky and a healthy enthusiasm to work on a level playing ground. For these dreams to come true we need balanced, humane, and holistic development centred on our far flung villages. Let every village have an arterial road that connects it with the rest of India. Let there be clean drinking water and smoke free cooking facilities. Good food is another dire necessity for the villagers. We need co-operative micro-financing to save them from money lending sharks.
If technology alone could make mankind happy, some of the advanced Western countries must have been the happiest. The fact is, they are not. Every social ill from corruption, crime, economic one-upmanship, political trickery, to exploitation of the vulnerable is a kind of mental illness in need of permanent solution. The game starts with proper education. Education must primarily build character along with the three R s. Education should stress on the Indian culture of not doing anything that one doesn’t want the world to know. Education must teach the child that it is better to fail than to cheat. Let every citizen know that failure is not fatal and success is not final. Young minds should never be exposed to unhealthy competition with others. Such unhealthy competition breeds negative thoughts that are at the root of all social evils, including killer diseases that man is heir to. Competing with others is mediocrity but competing with oneself is excellence. Education must aim only at excellence.
We talk of our huge population as a curse. Let us look at it as our largest man power pool to be nurtured. When the day comes where the poor man feels assured that his new born child would survive, family planning begins at the grass roots level. What with our present peri-natal and infant mortality being precariously high, how can we expect our poor people to adopt family planning? Let us be realistic. They are also human and they also want their progeny to carry the torch forwards. Let us invest wisely in basic health needs to change this dismal picture. It is not wishful thinking as some parts of India even today have slightly better life expectancy than European countries!
We have no choice but to invest much more of our GDP in education to provide compulsory primary education for every citizen. Vocational and higher education could be optional. We need to strengthen our higher educational base to cater to more than 700-800 million youngsters in the next fifty years by reviving our ancient University culture that existed in Nalanda at a time when the rest of the world was still in the dark. Higher education should aim at acquiring wisdom and not just knowledge and information.
Westminster type of democracy seems to have failed here. Gandhiji did not attend the first Independence Day function in the Red Fort as his vision of Swaraj (self rule) had not been on the agenda. We should concentrate on holistic village development based on self reliant micro-financing. Political humanism with mature wisdom is the need of the hour. Let us prepare our future generations to realize their societal obligations to others before they become our leaders. Biologically every living cell wants to come close to another cell, if allowed. Why then are we killing one another in the name of religion, language, region, caste, creed or our misguided belief systems?
What is our vision for India of tomorrow? What sort of India do we want to build for our future generations? Where are we headed? If we have gone wrong what is the remedy? These nagging thoughts haunt me everyday. I have an Indian vision. Let us come together to build a strong India. When the world becomes tranquil the billions of rupees spent on defense and security could be better utilized to provide clean drinking water for the masses, three meals a day for everyone and the healthy basic sanitary amenities! This would build a physically and psychologically strong India to compete with the world to rise above the rest in the comity of nations.
The three enemies of mankind, poverty, ignorance and illness, could be easily won over. We could build an India where justice is not injustice and justice is not the convenience of the powerful either. Let us come together in this Herculean task of rebuilding India morally, physically and economically. India has all the potentials needed for mankind to develop fully. Healthy India is happy India. But remember, the task is stupendous and we have miles to go, miles to go before we sleep!
Monday, March 8, 2010
Uncertain
One day, a young, new preacher was walking with an older, seasoned
preacher in a garden. Feeling uncertain about God's plan for his life,
the younger man asked the older man for some direction.
The veteran preacher picked a rosebud from a nearby bush and asked the
younger man to open it without tearing any petals. The young man
wondered what a rosebud could possibly have to do with knowing God's
will for his life and ministry, but attempted to open the rosebud
anyway.
It wasn't long before he realized how impossible this task was.
Noticing his difficulty, the older and wiser preacher said:
"It is only a tiny rosebud...a flower of God's design;
But I cannot unfold the petals with these clumsy hands of mine.
The secret of unfolding flowers is not known to such as I.
God opens this flower so sweetly, then in my hands they die.
If I cannot unfold a rosebud, the flower of God's design,
Then how can I have the wisdom to unfold this life of mine?
So, I'll trust in Him for leading each moment of my day.
I will look to Him for guidance each step of the Pilgrim's way.
The pathway that lies before me only my Heavenly Father knows.
I'll trust Him to unfold the moments just as He unfolds the rose."
No matter what age you are, it can be frustrating to figure out God's
will at times. But we serve a God who knows how many hairs are on our
heads...and His plan for your life is perfect! Instead of worrying
about what tomorrow or the next day holds, take one day at a time and
trust in the Savior for His faithful guidance.
PRAYER CHALLENGE: Pray that God would help you focus on today, not
tomorrow. And ask Him to give you wisdom as He reveals His plan for
your life one day at a time.
Thursday, February 25, 2010
How to improve your Brain
1. Convince yourself that you do have a good memory that will improve. Too many people get stuck here and convince themselves that their memory is bad, that they are just not good with names, that numbers just slip out of their minds for some reason. Erase those thoughts and vow to improve your memory. Commit yourself to the task and bask in your achievements — it’s hard to keep motivated if you beat yourself down every time you make a little bit of progress.
2. Keep your brain active. The brain is not a muscle, but regularly “exercising” the brain actually does keep it growing and spurs the development of new nerve connections that can help improve memory. By developing new mental skills—especially complex ones such as learning a new language or learning to play a new musical instrument—and challenging your brain with puzzles and games you can keep your brain active and improve its physiological functioning.
3. Exercise daily. Regular aerobic exercise improves circulation and efficiency throughout the body, including in the brain, and can help ward off the memory loss that comes with aging. Exercise also makes you more alert and relaxed, and can thereby improve your memory uptake, allowing you to take better mental “pictures.”
4. Reduce stress. Chronic stress, although it does not physically damage the brain, can make remembering much more difficult. Even temporary stresses can make it more difficult to effectively focus on concepts and observe things. Try to relax, regularly practice yoga or other stretching exercises, and see a doctor if you have severe chronic stress.
5. Eat well and eat right. There are a lot of herbal supplements on the market that claim to improve memory, but none have yet been shown to be effective in clinical tests (although small studies have shown some promising results for ginkgo biloba and phosphatidylserine). A healthy diet, however, contributes to a healthy brain, and foods containing antioxidants—broccoli, blueberries, spinach, and berries, for example—and Omega-3 fatty acids appear to promote healthy brain functioning. Feed your brain with such supplements as Thiamine, Vitamin E, Niacin and Vitamin B-6. Grazing, eating 5 or 6 small meals throughout the day instead of 3 large meals, also seems to improve mental functioning (including memory) by limiting dips in blood sugar, which may negatively affect the brain.
6. Take better pictures. Often we forget things not because our memory is bad, but rather because our observational skills need work. One common situation where this occurs (and which almost everyone can relate to) is meeting new people. Often we don’t really learn people’s names at first because we aren’t really concentrating on remembering them. You’ll find that if you make a conscious effort to remember such things, you’ll do much better. One way to train yourself to be more observant is to look at an unfamiliar photograph for a few seconds and then turn the photograph over and describe or write down as many details as you can about the photograph. Try closing your eyes and picturing the photo in your mind. Use a new photograph each time you try this exercise, and with regular practice you will find you’re able to remember more details with even shorter glimpses of the photos.
7. Give yourself time to form a memory. Memories are very fragile in the short-term, and distractions can make you quickly forget something as simple as a phone number. The key to avoid losing memories before you can even form them is to be able to focus on the thing to be remembered for a while without thinking about other things, so when you’re trying to remember something, avoid distractions and complicated tasks for a few minutes.
8. Create vivid, memorable images. You remember information more easily if you can visualize it. If you want to associate a child with a book, try not to visualize the child reading the book – that’s too simple and forgettable. Instead, come up with something more jarring, something that sticks, like the book chasing the child, or the child eating the book. It’s your mind – make the images as shocking and emotional as possible to keep the associations strong.
9. Repeat things you need to learn. The more times you hear, see, or think about something, the more surely you’ll remember it, right? It’s a no-brainer. When you want to remember something, be it your new coworker’s name or your best friend’s birthday, repeat it, either out loud or silently. Try writing it down; think about it.
10. Group things you need to remember. Random lists of things (a shopping list, for example) can be especially difficult to remember. To make it easier, try categorizing the individual things from the list. If you can remember that, among other things, you wanted to buy four different kinds of vegetables, you’ll find it easier to remember all four.
11. Organize your life. Keep items that you frequently need, such as keys and eyeglasses, in the same place every time. Use an electronic organizer or daily planner to keep track of appointments, due dates for bills, and other tasks. Keep phone numbers and addresses in an address book or enter them into your computer or cell phone. Improved organization can help free up your powers of concentration so that you can remember less routine things. Even if being organized doesn’t improve your memory, you’ll receive a lot of the same benefits (i.e. you won’t have to search for your keys anymore).
12. Try meditation. Research now suggests that people who regularly practice “mindfulness” meditation are able to focus better and may have better memories. Mindfulness (also known as awareness or insight meditation) is the type commonly practiced in Western countries and is easy to learn. Studies at Massachusetts General Hospital show that regular meditation thickens the cerebral cortex in the brain by increasing the blood flow to that region. Some researchers believe this can enhance attention span, focus, and memory.
13. Sleep well. The amount of sleep we get affects the brain’s ability to recall recently learned information. Getting a good night’s sleep – a minimum of seven hours a night – may improve your short-term memory and long-term relational memory, according to recent studies conducted at the Harvard Medical School.
14. Build your memorization arsenal. Learn pegs, memory palaces, and the Dominic System. These techniques form the foundation for mnemonic techniques, and will visibly improve your memory.
15. Venture out and learn from your mistakes. Go ahead and take a stab at memorizing the first one hundred digits of pi, or, if you’ve done that already, the first one thousand. Memorize the monarchs of England through your memory palaces, or your grocery list through visualization. Through diligent effort you will eventually master the art of memorization.
Sunday, February 21, 2010
The Birdies
On July 22nd I was in route to Washington, DC , for a business trip. It was all so very ordinary, until we landed in Denver for a plane change. As I collected my belongings from the overhead bin, an announcement was made for Mr. Lloyd Glenn to see the United Customer Service Representative immediately.
I thought nothing of it until I reached the door to leave the plane and I heard a gentleman asking every male if he were Mr. Glenn. At this point I knew something was wrong and my heart sunk.
When I got off the plane, a solemn-faced young man came toward me and said, "Mr.Glenn, there is an emergency at your home. I do not know what the emergency is, or who is involved, but I will take you to the phone so you can call the hospital."
My heart was now pounding, but the will to be calm took over.
Woodenly, I followed this stranger to the distant telephone where I called the number he gave me for the Mission Hospital. My call was put through to the trauma centre where I learned that my three-year-old son had been trapped underneath the automatic garage door for several minutes and that when my wife had found him he was dead. CPR had been performed by a neighbour, who is a doctor, and the paramedics had continued the treatment as Brian was transported to the hospital.
By the time of my call, Brian was revived and they believed he would live, but they did not know how much damage had been done to his brain, nor to his heart. They explained that the door had completely closed on his little sternum right over his heart. He had been severely crushed. After speaking with the medical staff, my wife sounded worried but not hysterical, and I took comfort in her calmness.
The return flight seemed to last forever, but finally I arrived at the hospital six hours after the garage door had come down. When I walked into the intensive care unit, nothing could have prepared me to see my little son laying so still on a great big bed with tubes and monitors everywhere. He was on a respirator. I glanced at my wife who stood and tried to give me a reassuring smile. It all seemed like a terrible dream. I was filled-in with the details and given a guarded prognosis. Brian was going to live and the preliminary tests indicated that his heart was OK, two miracles in and of themselves - but only time would tell if his brain received any damage.
Throughout the seemingly endless hours, my wife was calm. She felt that Brian would eventually be all right. I hung on to her words and faith like a lifeline. All that night and the next day Brian remained unconscious. It seemed like forever since I had left for my business trip the day before..
Finally at two o'clock that afternoon, our son regained consciousness and sat up uttering the most beautiful words I have ever heard spoken. He said, "Daddy, hold me" and he reached for me with his little arms.
By the next day he was pronounced as having no neurological or physical deficits, and the story of his miraculous survival spread throughout the hospital. You cannot imagine, when we took Brian home, we felt a unique reverence for the life and love of our Heavenly Father that comes to those who brush death so closely.
In the days that followed, there was a special spirit about our home. Our two older children were much closer to their little brother. My wife and I were much closer to each other, and all of us were very close as a whole family. Life took on a less stressful pace. Perspective seemed to be more focused and balance much easier to gain and maintain. We felt deeply blessed. Our gratitude was truly profound.
The story is not over (smile)!
Almost a month later to the day of the accident, Brian awoke from his afternoon nap and said, "Sit down Mommy. I have something to tell you." At this time in his life, Brian usually spoke in small phrases so to say a large sentence surprised my wife. She sat down with him on his bed, and he began his sacred and remarkable story.
"Do you remember when I got stuck under the garage door? Well, it was so heavy and it hurt really bad. I called to you but you couldn't hear me. I started to cry, but then it hurt too bad and then the ' birdies ' came."
"The birdies?" my wife asked puzzled.
"Yes," he replied. "The birdies made a whooshing sound and flew into the garage. They took care of me."
"They did?"
"Yes," he said. "One of the birdies came and got you. She came to tell you "I got stuck under the door." A sweet reverent feeling filled the room. The spirit was so strong and yet lighter than air. My wife realized that a three-year-old had no concept of death and spirits, so he was referring to the beings who came to him from beyond as "birdies" because they were up in the air like birds that fly. "What did the birdies look like?" she asked.
Brian answered, "They were so beautiful. They were dressed in white, all white. Some of them had green and white. But some of them had on just white."
"Did they say anything?"
"Yes," he answered. "They told me the baby would be all right."
"The baby?" my wife asked confused.
Brian answered. "The baby laying on the garage floor." He went on, "You came out and opened the garage door and ran to the baby. You told the baby to stay and not leave."
My wife nearly collapsed upon hearing this, for she had indeed gone and knelt beside Brian's body and seeing his crushed chest whispered, "Don't leave us Brian, please stay if you can.." As she listened to Brian telling her the words she had spoken, she realized that the spirit had left his body and was looking down from above on this little lifeless form. "Then what happened?" she asked.
"We went on a trip," he said, "far, far away." He grew agitated trying to say the things he didn't seem to have the words for. My wife tried to calm and comfort him, and let him know it would be okay. He struggled with wanting to tell something that obviously was very important to him, but finding the words was difficult..
"We flew so fast up in the air. They're so pretty Mommy," he added. "And there are lots and lots of birdies." My wife was stunned. Into her mind the sweet comforting spirit enveloped her more soundly, but with an urgency she had never before known. Brian went on to tell her that the "birdies" had told him that he had to come back and tell everyone about the "birdies." He said they brought him back to the house and that a big fire truck and an ambulance were there. A man was bringing the baby out on a white bed and he tried to tell the man that the baby would be okay. The story went on for an hour.
He taught us that "birdies" were always with us, but we don't see them because we look with our eyes and we don't hear them because we listen with our ears. But they are always there, you can only see them in here (he put his hand over his heart). They whisper the things to help us to do what is right because they love us so much. Brian continued, stating, "I have a plan, Mommy. You have a plan.. Daddy has a plan. Everyone has a plan. We must all live our plan and keep our promises. The birdies help us to do that cause they love us so much."
In the weeks that followed, he often came to us and told all, or part of it, again and again. Always the story remained the same. The details were never changed or out of order. A few times he added further bits of information and clarified the message he had already delivered. It never ceased to amaze us how he could tell such detail and speak beyond his ability when he talked about his birdies.
Friday, February 19, 2010
"F" Word
Failure is both the "teacher's pet" and the "black sheep" of the family of success! People are naive about the benefits of failure. Wrongly founded assumptions about failure replace potentially accurate assessments of what is necessary to achieve success.Failure has an ulterior motive - not to get you to quit, but to stop you long enough so that you may learn something, re-strategize and re-launch again more prepared for success.
Success cannot exist without failure as failure is part of the steering mechanism that drives you to success. Learn to expect failure - welcome it, as your denial of this reality can and will have huge negative effects.
Anything worthwhile is worth pursuing, even though the risk is huge, the investment formidable, and failure a possibility.
FAILURE is an essential part of the combination required to open the lock on success.
FAILURE measures your personal investment in this goal - it is a test of character, commitment and courage.
FAILURE lobs an occasional grenade at success, failure asks for your resignation letter, it goads and prods you into quitting, but success hangs in the balance.
We all live a life of close calls, belly flops, and missed opportunities. Your persistence in the face of failure and set back is a measure of your belief in yourself and your goal.
Knowing when to say when is also important. The message this time could be to say "Uncle" and move on to something else. An occasional step back to regroup and reload can, and often does, position you for several more steps forward.
There will always be tension between your enthusiasm for your goal and the fear of failing to achieve it. Quite frankly, you want it that way. The trick is learning how to surrender to fear but to thrive on its tension.
Expect to get dinged here and there as you pursue your goal, but like wine that gets better with age, you get better when you have failed a time or two and learned from the experience.
While there is nothing inherently sexy or enviable about failure, eventually people find you more attractive and interesting because of the knowledge, wisdom, and maturity you gained because of it.
When opportunity appears on the horizon, fear of failure is often riding shotgun. Too many people surrender to that fear. Stay focused, "superglue" your commitment, and persevere.
Your reward is having a wonderful stage upon which to ply your craft, to explore yourself, and to let the world enjoy the benefits of your efforts.
Failure does not preclude success. Rather than beat a retreat, go on the offensive, dare to pursue your dreams when others would yield.
Bill's 11 Rule

Love him or hate him, he sure hits the nail on the head with this! Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school. He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world
Rule 1: Life is not fair - get used to it!
Rule 2 : The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
Rule 3 : You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.
Rule 4 : If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.
Rule 5 : Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.
Rule 6: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Rule 7: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
Rule 8 : Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
Rule 9: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time..
Rule 10: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
Rule 11: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
1.Wake Up !!
Decide to have a good day.
2.Dress Up !!
The best way to dress up is to put on a smile.
A smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks.
3.Shut Up!!
Say nice things and learn to listen. With two ears and one mouth..
it's meant for us to do twice as much listening as talking.
"He who guards his lips guards his soul."
4.Stand Up!!
for what you believe in. Stand for something or you will fall for anything.
"Let us not be weary in doing good; for at the proper time,
we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.
Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good..."
5.Look Up !!
Keep yourself centered. Remember, you are important.
"I can do everything through GOD who strengthens me".
6.Reach Up !!
for something higher. Trust with all your heart,
and lean not unto your own understanding.
7.Lift Up !!
your Prayers. "Do not worry about anything;
instead PRAY ABOUT EVERYTHING."
Prayer
God , life seems so bleak and useless
right now.
I don't have any energy.
I have no ambition to much of anything
I am really feel "down on" myself and down one" everyone around me.
Even as I pray , I don't sense your presence, I am going through the motions knowing that you are still with me.
I know that I am sacred and precious but they are just words right now.
I know that my life has been worthwhile , full of many wonderful people and experiences much happiness and joy.
I feel little of this right now, God all I can do is affirm the goodness of life and try to hold on until the darkness is replaced by Your light and Love.
Help me to spot the lies that my depressed emotions are telling me.
Life is good, Iam good , You are good , Grant me hope, My loved ones love me, Life will be beautiful again
Soon I will know vitality and purpose , happiness and love.
Until then give me the strength and hope to survive this day.
Help me to smile and laugh, even if just for a moment.
Be my strength and salvation.
I ask you to restore me and make me whole, Fill me with the Word and
the Spirit that i might be recreated anew, I praise and thank You. Love you God....Love you My Sweetheart
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
Thank You Friends
Thank You
My Friends... there are thank you's of all kinds... but I just have to say in my own little way...
Thank s to all For being such a dear friend.
Thank you for your lovely
Valentine Greetings you'll have
made my day so special
Thank you for the laughter and love
along the way...
The joy you send each day...
Fills my heart in such a happy way...
Thank you for all you do
and above all for being you"
Often we allow ourselves to be upset by
small things we should despise and forget...
We lose many irrplaceable hour brooding
over grievances that in a year's time
will be forgotten by us and by
everybody...
let us devote our life to worthwhile
actions and feelings
to great thoughts , real affections
and enduring undertakings...
Keep Smiling and have a nice day"
God Bless You My Dear Friends
with lots of love -- Urs Abhishek
Self Confidence By 11 Simple Rules
Self Confidence By 11 Simple Rules
Self confidence gives us the freedom to commit mistakes and cope with failure without making us feel worthless. If only we have confidence in ourselves, can we gain confidence of others. After all, most people are reluctant to back a project that’s being pitched by someone who is nervous, fumbling and overly apologetic. On the other hand, you might be persuaded by someone who spoke clearly, who held his or her head high, who answered questions assuredly, and who readily admitted when he/she did not know something.
So where do you rate yourself on the scale of 1-10 for your confidence level? Do you think you fall in the low confidence bracket? Here’s some good news for you. And the good news is that self-confidence can be learned and built on.
Let’s start the process of building self-confidence. Remember there is no quick fix solution for it. Nonetheless, practice makes a man perfect. So all you have to do is try and implement the following given tips in your day to day life.
Recognize your insecurities: We all have insecurities in life. It can be anything from acne, to regrets, to friends at school. Giving a name to the things which make youfeel unworthy, ashamed or inferior helps to combat them. You can try to pen down your thoughts and you will find that it makes you feel much lighter and happier. Remember that no one is perfect. The man or woman sitting next to you might have the same amount of insecurities as you have. If writing doesn’t come easily to you, you might want to talk it out with your friends or loved ones. Sharing your thoughts will help relieve the burden you have been carrying all alone.
Identify your successes: No matter how insecure you might feel, God has blessed each one of us with some talent. Discover the things you are good at and then focus on improving them. Give yourself permission to take pride in your talents. Give yourself credit for your successes. Inferiority is a state of mind in which you’ve declared yourself a victim. Do not allow yourself to be victimized.
Be thankful for what you have: A lot of the times, at the root of insecurity and lack of confidence is a feeling of not having enough of something, whether it’s emotional validation, good luck, money, etc. By acknowledging and appreciating what you do have, you can combat the feeling of being incomplete and unsatisfied. Finding that inner peace will do wonders for your confidence.
Be positive: Avoid self-pity or sympathy of others. Never allow others to make you feel inferior–they can only do so if you let them. If you continue to loathe and belittle yourself, others are going to do and believe likewise. Instead, speak positively about yourself, about your future, and about your progress. Do not be afraid to project your strengths and qualities to others.
Dress sharp: Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. When you don’t look good, you don’tfeel good. It changes the way you carry yourself and interact with people. This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer thancheap clothes.
Walk faster: Your gait tells a lot about your personality. Is it slow? Tired? Painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. You can increase yourself confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.
Compliment other people: When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and buildself confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.
Take the front seat: Back benchers might seem to have a lot of fun in schools and colleges but that does nothing to boost their self confidence. Don’t be afraid to get noticed. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over your irrational fear of getting noticed and build your self confidence.
Speak up: It’s a general observation that many people are afraid to speak or ask questions in a group discussion or a public gathering. They are afraid that they might be judged for saying something stupid. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.
Work out: A healthy mind resides in a healthy body. If you are fit, you are surrounded by positivity and energy. If you are out of shape youfeel unattractive. This leads to demoralization. Just a little discipline in your life can help shape up your self confidence in a big way.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
A Smile costs nothing, but gives much-
It takes but a moment, but the memory of it usually lasts forever.
None are so rich that can get along without it-
And none are so poor but that can be made rich by it.
It enriches those who receive, without making poor those who give-
It creates sunshine in the home,
Fosters good will in business,
And is the best antidote for trouble-
And yet it cannot be begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is of no value
Unless it is given away.
Some people are too busy to give you a smile-
Give them one of yours-
For the good Lord knows that no one needs a smile so badly
As he or she who has no more smiles left to give.
